Stop Dimming Your Light The World Needs You
I was speaking with the managing director of a global firm in London who opened up in these exchanges with me;
“Do you realize that your resume is capable of intimidating executives of all color? Your resume can threaten anyone. There are people from different races who may not have accomplished as much as you have. How do you handle this”?
I have learned that people ask you these questions because they want to quantify if you are “humble.” A term that has been coined to misdirect and misinform our ability to stand in our authenticity, own our values, and lead with a brave heart.
At first, I was obfuscated! No one has opened up directly to me as she did. I paused for a while so that I could entirely focus on her and respond adequately. Then I said the following;
I earned and accomplished all that I have done because I was intentional and determined to bring them to fruition. When people were partying, I was studying and working day and night. I knew no other life. Studying, working voraciously, and creating a road map for the extraordinary was all I knew. I am aware of where I was coming from, and I know who I want to be. When doors intended to halt me were shut at me, I prayed fervently and worked tenaciously through different routes. I just refused to be stopped. I soldiered on and went through the most tumultuous times, and I am still surpassing crucibles and breaking glass ceilings. As I dived deep into the conversation, I remembered the promises I made many years ago.
Early in life, I made a promise to God and myself that I will never use my position to belittle anyone’s ambitions, but I will use my success to create incubators that will develop others and help them to do better. I will be an inspiration for men, women, boys, and girls. I will strive to make the world better.
A long time ago, I was undergoing a transition; I interviewed for a professor position at a reputable institution. I tried everything I could to dim my light and appear like I have accomplished nothing. I narrated my journey unassertively, so it would not appear powerful. I wanted to see if not mentioning great things could give me a lead way.
On my way to dinner with one of the professors, she said, I googled you and found out the amazing things you have done for such a long time. How come you never mentioned any of these amazing things throughout your interview? Those things I read about you were what you needed to SHINE.
I was exhausted. There I was, trying to appear less powerful so that I could fit in and then being told at the same time that what I needed to shine was that which I was letting go.
At that point, I decided for myself that I will never dim my light to make anyone feel less threatened or comfortable. You either acknowledge my extraordinary accomplishments and equip yourself to be even more remarkable by learning from experts and shining collectively or look for a place to hide so that others who have done the work can shine. 🤨
Like Michelle Obama stated, “As women, we always cede our power easily. What is in your brain is useful. Do not hide it, do not apologize for it, Put it on the table and let people DEAL with it”.
There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people will not feel insecure around you. Nothing is humbling about making yourself seem less accomplished. Ensure that you have done the work. We are all meant to SHINE.🌹
This phenomenon is applicable to everyone.
Dr. Princess Halliday, PhD
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